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Tuesday, 10 January 2017

New Year - New Resolutions - New You : Why I love January


For many January is a miserable month; the weather is grey, longer wait till payday and most people are doing dry January!

However, for me I love January, it is my favourite month of the year (bar September - as that is my birthday month!). I love January because it is a month of hope, fresh starts and health kicks!

New Year: Hope

New year offers a time when we can start to make serious plans such as travel plans or career ideas. It is not that you cannot do this at any other point in time, January just provides a good framework of the next 12 months to make these plans. Some of the things I hope to achieve and have started making plans include visiting Iceland & Scotland and doing a 5k race!

New Resolutions: Fresh Start

Over the year it appears less and less people embark on setting new year's resolutions with the most commonly cited reason is that they don’t normally stick to them and/or there is no area in their wheel of life that needs resolving. Personally I love new year's resolutions and after many years of not fulfilling them, I have been able to keep mine in the last few years.

The first key thing is to think of resolutions less like resolutions i.e. a solution a problem and more as intentions. Setting intentions is saying what you intend to do and ties into the first theme of new year, hope (what is it you would like to achieve in the next 12 months?). This also explains why you don’t necessary need to have an area of life or a problem you are seeking to resolve to set a new year's intention.

So if you are not resolving any particular area; what kind of intentions do you set?  I think it boils down to lifestyle. It is important to (a) recognise the lifestyle you live from what job you do to what you eat for breakfast and (b) have a think if there is any part of your lifestyle you aspire to be different. By doing this it will become clear what kind of intentions it would be a good to set. The other great thing from doing this will be you will see these changes/additions as a lifestyle choice rather than a specific goal which can be easy to give up on. For example, lots of people start the new year  saying they want to be healthy. This is evident from the fact it is almost impossible to book gym classes between Jan-March. However, what happens? Why does it suddenly quietened down at the gym? The problem is that most people do not see health-related aspirations as lifestyle choices. They might want to give up chocolate, however, once done for 6 months think the goal is over and revert to business as usual. More likely, they give into craving and again the resolution is suddenly dead and gone after 1,2 or 3 mistakes. However, if you envisage an intention to live a healthy lifestyle, there is no end date, there is no harm in having a chocolate every so often. You end up living quite a balanced lifestyle with ups and downs throughout the year and as a result you will be eating less chocolate.

This is why I love to set new year's resolutions or as I call them “intentions”; they are a good way of improving your lifestyle to a way you aspire to and by thinking of them as a lifestyle choice it becomes much easier to maintain them all year round.

New You: Health Kick

As someone that enjoys keeping up to date with health trends, gyming and learning about wellness: I love this time of year! It is great to see everyone on such a health kick, learn about new things people are doing and many retailers have offers relating to health & fitness.

So although the long wait until payday, the constant bleak sky and sudden decrease in social events, I love January. It is a wonderful time to work on you! Don’t miss this opportunity to start making plans for 2017!

Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Legal Challenges to Flood Management

After attending a Castle Debate on Flooding; I have put together a video on some of the legal challenges to flooding. I begin with mentioning a few lines on the lack of clarity and overarching statutory regimes surrounding Flood Management. I then move onto exploring the three basic claim areas that are likely to grow in the future:

1. Flooding caused/exacerbated by neighbours - Nuisance/Rylands v Fletcher
2. Climate change litigation
3. Challenges to public authority flood management

Monday, 23 December 2013

Crabby

It seems like Deja vu, writing to you all from the beautiful Algarve in Portugal again. My posts last year seem to centre on the incredible seafood available here and a beach facial I had the privilege to experience. 

However, today is different. I don't wish to describe any part of the region or its fruits, but rather share with you an incredibly funny incident that took place today. 

So to set the scene; today is my first day of vacation here in Portugal. The day entailed a trip down to the local markets where I ended up purchasing spoilt avocados, addictive honey coated almonds and of course some seafood. 

At the seafood stand, hidden, in a posy of adult live crabs was a miniature baby crab. It was different to the others, not only was it smaller but it was wearing a red and purple polka dot shell. The crab immediately caught my eye because it was just so cute (sorry no unusual creative adjective word can describe the crab better than cute!). 

The stall owner saw our (my sisters were present too) reaction to the crab and being the happy man he was gave us the crab for free. 

The whole day then revolved around what exactly we were going to do with the crab. It was too cute and too puny to cook. So I had an epiphany, that we should keep him (despite being a feminist, I do have a tendency to assume creatures are male unfortunately)  as a pet and name him George after the Royal Baby (British pride kicking in even when abroad!). 

Now to fast forward to the main part of the story! The crab for the of most day was kept in the kitchen in the bag and water it was packed in and was very calm.

At around 5pm, I decide to go for a shower and as usual, something always takes place when you least it expect it too. I hear from outside the bathroom, my sister who is eleven calling me. So slightly irritated that I can't have a shower in peace, I respond asking what is going on. Then I hear a tremor in her voice as she responds, I will wait for you to come out.

As you may know Algarve, is the region most famously known for the area where Madeleine McCann, so in frenzy, I fluster out the bathroom thinking the worst thoughts, to find her hesitantly standing outside.

I ask her what is going on and she says with that same tremble and fearful eyes that I think you should go in the kitchen. Given I have been addicted to Body of Proof for the last few weeks, I prepare myself to find a kidnapper or worse inside. 

With my heart racing at a million miles,  I find that it is crabby lying there in a soup plate. I turn around in confusion and ask for an explanation. To which, my sister responds she wanted to make crabby in a full pet like I suggested earlier and thought she would surprise me by putting it in a bowl but became scared as it started to slowly move.

As I held a crab this size before in Ghana, I felt this was no big deal and decided to walk towards the crab and transfer it into a deep bowl or pan as it could not fit on the current soup plate. As I extended my hand to reach for the soup plate, with my sister hiding behind me, the crab decides to jump around the bowl and do some 360 degree rotations. 

Terrified I jump around, end up whacking my sister in the face, screaming and basically running for my life. My sister following me behind in tears and hitting me back (of course sibling fights are not forgotten in moments of high stress and pressure). 

The funniest part of this whole saga, was the fact that all while this was happening, my other sister calmly was sitting in the living room next door watching her Indian soap opera. I tapped her to ask if she had any idea what was going on and she had no idea! 

As a means of an ending, I trapped the crab using three saucepans as a means of calming it down. After which I transferred it into a nice bowl with water. And of course, my mother couldn't help but be a mother and gave the crab some fresh chives to eat, which he didn't really like!

Below, I have shared some photos with you (I will upload them later - wifi issues!) :)

Thursday, 5 September 2013

Wrongful Wonga?


This morning I read an article which criticised the existence of Wonga, the short pay-day loan company who charge over 5,000% interest. 

It was in the Metro and the article talked about the immoral activities of Wonga and blamed the company for making people worse off. It is also well known that lobby groups are seeking ways to shut the firm down.

Now before I begin, let me start by saying, I don't particularly like Wonga or the services they give but I find myself playing Devil's advocate.

The services carried out by Wonga are legal under current English law. Under a capitalist society, banks, firms, entrepreneurs are allowed to charge what they see as fit for the goods and services they provide. The UK being a mixed economy, does intervene when it needs too, e.g. taxing alcohol or making children's clothing VAT free. 

The next point is the morality of Wonga's actions. I don't see what gives me or any of us the right to call Wonga an immoral organisation. Immoral means "not conforming to accepted standards of morality" and thus is a notion that is subject to change and develop. Therefore, suggesting it has been immoral, doesn't mean that it doesn't conform to accepted morality (whatever that is) for present society today. I hate people judging, its the one thing that really gets to me. 

The next point is about shutting Wonga down. Wonga like any business would not exist had a market for its products not existed. If we shut Wonga down, another Wonga like institution will show itself because the bottom line is that demand for these pay-day loans at this ridiculously high interest rate do exist.

So what I am getting at , is that we are all free individual human beings who strangely make choices to use institutions like Wonga which be claim to be immoral and therefore, I don't think its fair to single out and blame Wonga because in the end it takes two to tango.

Monday, 26 August 2013

Father


Today I would like to write about my father. This topic has been on my mind for some days. Perhaps, it is the prospect of returning home in less than two weeks or the fact that I arrive on my dad's birthday. Regardless, it has been on my mind.

I have been through different stages and feelings of homesickness all summer, as I have been abroad in different countries for various amounts of time. I found that it wasn't too long before I started missing my sisters, then my mum and finally my dad. It wasn't that I didn't miss him, it was that emotional kind of sadness only kicked in about 10 days ago. 

Fathers, are such important parts of our lives and often we don't even realise just how important they are. I have only realised how much of my own person, attitude to life and general personality I get from my dad.

Often, I find myself, particularly as I have got older disagreeing and debating with my dad.Yet, there is just so much of what he says is right, correct and makes sense. 

I have just deleted the last paragraph I wrote as I feel like I am repeating myself. Perhaps, its time for me to delve deeper into the true purpose behind this post as opposed to the the basic generic comments I am making about how I am like my dad.

So perhaps I should start by saying what are the particulars I miss of my dad. I miss a lot. I miss my dad's ability of being able to tell what's on my mind within moments of seeing me. I miss my dad putting his arms around me and hugging me and not just any ordinary hug, one that lasts for minutes and I can't help but forget whatever it is that was upsetting me . I miss my dad talking through things in a rational, logical and in some ways a pretty blunt manner. I miss my dad telling me I look nice because he can tell the days I have made an effort to dress up for an occasion. At the same time I miss always making sure I am always on top of things because I do not want my dad to ask me why I am behind on something. I miss my dad asking everyone on the table every dinner how their day was. I miss my dad.

Usually when I go on a family holiday, there will always be on thing which I will be questioning why my dad is so insistent that we do this. I will usually be pretty grumpy on those days. Yet coming out on my own, I find myself wanting to do all the things he would. Having the same philosophy of making as many memories as you can even though not all will be pleasant. I find myself looking for a place of worship, any place, when things get tough, another thing that my dad has always done. 

This trip has really taught me to appreciate and be grateful of the relationship I have with my father. I have realised that I take the time I spend with him, talk to him and the advice he gives me for granted. I miss him a lot today. If you are fortunate enough to be with your father today, I would say try and make the most out of it and if anything, just notice and realise how reliant and important fathers are in our life.   
I wanted to write so much more but its difficult when your laptop has become smothered in tears. I love my dad a lot and for the first time have really appreciated not only the father he is, but the person he is; from coming from one of the worst schools in the country to a detached house in a suburb. 

I hope when I have children, I am able to give them all the love, tolerance, patience and knowledge my father has given me.


Tuesday, 20 August 2013

Fruits A-Z

In Singapore, the place where I worked was the the first office where I have seen where fruit days are taken so seriously. This made me think about the lack of fruit I myself eat. So today I have put together an A-Z guide on fruit, naming a different fruit with each letter and its benefits to learn a bit more about why eating fruit is important.


Apple


An apple is a round fruit of a tree of the rose family, which typically has a thin green or red skin and a crispy flesh.

There are many benefits of eating an apple including; it is an overall tonic, a good fibre for the digestive system and is known to reduce the risk of Alzheimers. Apples are also recommended for weight loss as they contain less than 100 calories and their digestive aid helps your stomach in holding on to less saturated fat.

Banana

A banana is a long curved fruit which grows in clusters and has a soft pulpy flesh and yellow skin when ripe.

Bananas have high vitamin and mineral content especially potassium. They are especially good for fat burning and providing energy for a long period of time. There is also evidence to suggest they reduce chances of kidney cancer.

Cherry

Cherries are small, soft round stone fruit that are typically bright or dark red.

Cherries have a unique combination of detoxifying, laxative and inflammation reducing qualities.  They also have a surprising large amount of vitamin A which is good for maintenance of heart, lung and kidneys.

Durian

Durians are spiny oval tropical fruit that contain a creamy pulp. Despite its fetid smell it is highly valued for its flavour.

Durians like bananas are rich in their vitamin and mineral levels containing high amounts of potassium, sulphur and vitamin C. However, because of their warming properties, too much in hot countries can cause excessive sweating.

Elderberry

Elderberries are the bluish-black or the red berry of the elder tree or shrub, used mainly for making jelly or wine.

Despite being used mainly for creating secondary food products, elderberries are extremely beneficial to health. They can help improve vision, lower cholesterol levels and its high vitamin C levels mean that it was given to treat a flu epidemic in Panama in 1995.

Fig

Figs are soft pear-shaped fruit with a sweet dark flesh and many small seeds, eaten fresh or dried.

Figs are extremely mineral and vitamin rich containing B1, B5, B6, iron and calcium. Dried figs are extremely popular and they still have all the mineral properties that raw figs have.

Grape

Grapes are berries, typically green, purple or black, which are grown in clusters on a grapevine. They are eaten as fruit as well as used in making wine.

Research shows that grapes are a profound heart and blood vitalising food, contain anti-cancer nutrients and help with anemia.

Honeydew Melon

Honeydew melon is a variety of melon with smooth pale skin and a sweet green flesh. It is considered the sweetest of all melons. t

Honeydew melon is a perfect source of your daily vitamins and minerals being high in vitamin C, potassium and vitamin B-6.  Vitamin B-6 is in fact a metabolism booster and aids brain development and so this fruit is often advised to those on weight management diets.

Iyokan

Iyokan is a small orange Japanese citrus fruit. Given its slightly sour taste, it is the second most produced fruit in Japan.


Iyoka has extremely high levels of vitamin C making it very good for the immune system.
Jujube

Jujube sometimes referred to as the “Chinese date” is an edible berry-like fruit of a Eurasian plant, formally taken as a cough cure.

The high levels of vitamin C, zinc and magnesium is what made its most popular use being cough medicine.

Kiwi

Kiwi is a fruit with a thin hairy skin, green flesh and back seeds. It is formerly called a Chinese gooseberry.

Kiwis contain unique enzymes that help in correcting and smoothing the digestive system. They are also said to eliminate wrinkles and remove excess sodium.

Lychee

Lychees are small rounded fruit with a sweet white scented flesh, a large central stone and a thin rough skin. They taste similar to grapes but typically are much more fragrant.

They contain large amounts of copper, vitamin C and phosphorus. It also helps protect the skin from UV rays.

Mango

Mangoes are fleshy, oval, yellowish-red tropical fruit which is eaten ripe or used green for pickles, salads or chutneys.

Mangoes are excellent aids to kidneys; they help cleanse blood and lower cholesterol levels.

Nectarine

Nectarines are a variety of peaches with a smooth red and yellow skin which have a rich, firm flesh.

Nectarines are also a digestive aids; they help to cleanse the body and contain vitamin E and copper.

Orange

Oranges are large round juicy citrus fruit with a tough bright reddish-yellow rind.

Most famously, they are known for their immune system benefits. They can also reduce tumors, inflammation and prevent blood clots from developing.

Pineapple

Pineapples are juicy tropical fruit consisting of aromatic edible yellow flesh surrounded by a tough segmented skin and topped with a tuft of stiff leaves.

Pineapples promote joint health, can help with cleansing mucus specifically and help promote folic acid levels.

Quince

Quinces are a hard, acid pear-shaped fruit used in preserves or as flavourings.

Quince have anti-allergic and anti- inflammatory properties. They have also been known to treat cystitis.

Rambutan

Rambutans are red plum-sized tropical fruit with soft spines and a slightly acidic taste.

In traditional medicine, they are used to cure diabetes and hypertension. They are high in protein not just vitamins and minerals such as vitamin C, phosphorus and copper. 

Star fruit

Star fruit, more formally called carambola, is a golden-yellow juicy fruit with a star shaped-shaped cross section.

Star fruit is rich in antioxidants, potassium and vitamin C. In Brazilian folk medicine, it has been known to suppress coughs and increase urine output.

Tangerine

Tangerines are small citrus fruits with loose skin, especially a skin which has a deep orange-red colour.

Similar to oranges; they are great for vitamin C boosts, calcium and copper. Their fibre is also good for reduction in risk of arthritis.

Ugli

Ugli is a mottled green and yellow citrus fruit which is a cross between a grapefruit and a tangerina.

Ugli fruit contains 0g of fat and half your required portion of fiber; therefore is featured in many weight management diets. 

Voavanga

Voavanga also known as a Spanish tamarind, it is a round fruit that is green with white dots that turns brown when fully ripe. The pulp is moderately juicy, with a slightly acidic flavor. It has been described taste wise as a combination of a Satsuma and a grapefruit. They are very rare and although featured in the Spanish cuisine, they are actually from Mexico.

There is no specific breakdown of the vitamins and minerals they contain; but they are known to add to your overall vitamin and mineral levels.

Watermelon

Watermelon is a large melon-like fruit of a plant of the gourd family, with smooth green skin, red pulp and watery juice.

Watermelon interestingly helps to prevent against sunburn and is said to reduce the risk of prostate and ovarian cancer. Being a summer fruit it also is great at rehydrating and cleansing the body.

Xigua

Xigua is a fruit very similar to watermelon only shorter in size.

It has all the same benefits as watermelon only difference is it is shorter and can be found in a cube shape.

Yuzu

Yuzu look similar to grapefruits only smaller in size, and are yellow or green depending on ripeness. It is found predominantly in East Asia.

Yuzu can help replenish dead skin cells, slow down physical signs of aging and boost vitamin C levels. It is often used in beauty products too because of its anti-aging properties.

Zalacca

Zalacca have a reddish-brown scaly skin covering a white pulp which has a slightly acidic taste. These fruits are native to Indonesia.

The fruits are recommended for those suffering with diarrhea as they are full of fiber and of course vitamin C. 

Guilt

When I am upset, I hate being around people. All I want to do is to be left alone to weep. When I am happy, I want to share this feeling with others and yet this is the time you barely find someone so pure who feels absolutely happy for you. 

I have found it hard to deal with guilt here in Cambodia. Often, we say we are feeling guilty if we forgot to go to the gym for a month or purchased another pair of shoes in a different color in the same week. But to be fair this is all nonsense, because if we were truly guilty we would do something about it.

This is the first time in my life I have felt what I would call true guilt. And you know its true guilt when you don't want to talk to anyone about and stop making eye contact with people when they are trying to talk to you especially if one is close.

The first thing I find myself being extremely guilty about the life I seem to have attained in Cambodia. Cambodia is a two tier society. The rich drive range rovers, eat at costa and indulge at daily spas. The poor walk, eat street food (if any) and spend most of the time trying to make money for their kids. Some may say well this isn't too different to the situation I had to deal with in Ghana. However. I would argue its very difference. The difference being I am not interacting with the low tier of Cambodian society or in any way helping it. I work in a fairly medium size ngos, putting together fundraising strategies in respect to funds such as the UN Women fund. I sit in a a private office of only me and my friend in an AC-ed office, we have our own private bathrooms and a kitchen. We eat lunch at fancy cafes. We use tuk-tuks everywhere and fly when going out of Phnom Penh. We go out every evening after work whether to the shopping mall or a health club. We live the lives of kings. We live in a guesthouse with warm water, mattress on beds and wifi downstairs. We get more than most of these people. I feel physically sick writing this. The idea behind volunteering was supposed to be to immerse yourself in the poor society and make a difference; share stories, skills and most importantly friendships. I don't I have spoken to a single "street person" in my two and half weeks.\

The second guilt I hold is an extension of the first point. People work years to do a trip like the one I am doing. I didn't have to work; just ask my parents. 'This added to the fact that I feel like I am making no difference at all to Phnom Penh; I feel extremely guilty. I mean why should I be granted this privileged. What gives me the right to use someone else's hard worked money especially when I am educated and of a working age. I have never ever said this before or spoken to any one about this but it upsets me. It's different when I have a student loan because ultimately I myself pay for that. I really have an issue with accepting gifts and anything to do with money. But I have been thinking that I am not entirely wrong; it is unfair. This also adds to why I feel so bad that the Cambodia trip hasn''t yielded in me making a difference to lives of the poor around me.

Someone once said to me that your family is your biggest strength but that also makes it your biggest weakness. It is a statement that resonated with me. I hate the idea of being fearful, fearful of anything. I mean why should I? I believe in God, Karma and that you only get what you can handle in life so why be scared? This is perhaps what lead to me to make sure that I wasn't so attached to my family so that say something happened I knew I could cope. I sometimes don't see my family days in a row in normal daily basis. I managed two weeks many years ago on my own, then three weeks last year and now I am on a trip of 8-9weeks away from them. And you know what; yes my family is my biggest strength. Yes, I can't deal with life without them. Being away does help make stronger in some ways; I am responsible for everything and am forced to deal with individuals who do not have the same genes or thinking as me. But the truth of the matter is quite simply; going away from home doesn't make you need them less. You will always need them. And this unlucky scenario of should something happen, actually happen, is a bridge for me to cross when it happens, not now. Going away for a year wouldn't change this. Having realized this brings me to the final guilt that has been eating me that so much so that I was going to get the next flight home today. My sister is very unwell. It is my duty to be there by her side and take care of her and I cannot because I am on a stupid trip where neither am I helping the locals or becoming less dependent on my family. I know I should be home and if she is not better by friday, I have decided that I will leave regardless. 

I feel so much lighter writing this; writing is so cathartic. I have stopped weeping for starters. Ultimately, I have learnt what guilt actually feels like and it has taught me a lot about the nonsense drama we bring in our daily lives when we claim to feel guilty for forgetting to text back or eating that chocolate fudge cake.